My answer to What would be the most efficient and effective way to defuse tensions and danger between North Korea a…
Answer by Ken Larson:
The politician on both sides of the issue should practice the following:
Carefully practice the listening skill before speaking. Listen carefully to individual with whom he is communicating, considering the specific content of what the other party is conveying. As an adjunct to this process sculpt a reply that acknowledges what he has heard the other party say, offering a constructive and clear response.
What he learns about someone different than him may not be the same value system as he possess, but by learning from them he will be able to make distinctions between his values and theirs, consider accepting the differences without prejudice, communicate with them and move forward on common objectives.
All wars eventually result in negotiated settlements. Avoiding them by listeninglearning and negotiation in the first place is the most effective war weapon and by far the least costly in materials, debt and lives.
Effective negotiation must involve listening to learn the other parties values, not simply the perceived threat they represent to us because we do not know them. He would do well to learn more about those different before we fight and do it genuinely.